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Post by Kitkat on 20th March 2017, 16:25

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Post by Feather on 20th March 2017, 16:52

Thank you, my friend. How are you these days, kk?



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Post by Kitkat on 22nd March 2017, 12:38

@Feather wrote:Thank you, my friend. How are you these days, kk?

Looking forward to seeing my brother soon.  He has a week's hol from his job in Saudi and plans to spend it here beginning of April.  However, (not normally a 'worrier') I'm a little bit anxious to say the least, after reading today's BBC headlined article re air travel:

Posted in the forum here readmore   https://krazykats.forumotion.co.uk/t992-bit-worrying#7879
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Post by Feather on 22nd March 2017, 13:10

The world is in a shocking state. No wonder you are concerned especially when The Middle East is involved although Europe can be just as dangerous. Try not to worry too much all the same. You'll have a lovely time when he gets here.



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Post by lar-lar on 24th March 2017, 18:53

Hi happyheart everybody 

I know somebody who takes medication for depression who ponders if it's 'circumstances' or is innate. I don't understand a lot about it but it sounds a dreadful aflliction to have. I may not understand fully what you're going through Feather, but I care. xx
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Post by Kitkat on 26th March 2017, 14:25

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@Feather wrote:Thank you, my friend. How are you these days, kk?

Looking forward to seeing my brother soon.  He has a week's hol from his job in Saudi and plans to spend it here beginning of April.  However, (not normally a 'worrier') I'm a little bit anxious to say the least, after reading today's BBC headlined article re air travel:

Posted in the forum here readmore   https://krazykats.forumotion.co.uk/t992-bit-worrying#7879

Well of course, since that posting we have experienced the horrific events in London.
It's been reported that the Westminster attacker (British born & bred) - spent some time in Saudi Arabia, working as an English teacher (so they've obviously been doing their cart-before-the-horse homework checks.)
At some stage he changed his name to a Muslim name - probably after his return from there.
My brother is an English teacher working in Saudi! Even more reason to anticipate delays with stricter security measures at airports/customs etc. obgob
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Post by Feather on 26th March 2017, 15:34

Another terrible atrocity, kk. The statistics that alarm me are that in every country in the west muslims are procreating fater than non muslims. In fact it is predicted that by 2050, they will all me pedominately muslim. There are more mosques than churches in many major citis already. World domination is what ISIS wants and they don't even have to fight to achieve this. It will be done by sheer numbers of population.



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Post by Kitkat on 30th May 2017, 14:54

I have heard from Feather - she tells me she has had cataract surgery and can't see clearly for a few weeks.  It's especially hard for her to post on forums.  She will be needing surgery in the other eye too.

So this explains her current elongated absence from the forums.

Feather, you know my bestest wishes are there with you, thinking of you and hoping your sight gets back to a comfortable state soon, at which time no doubt you'll be back here to tell us all about it. catlick xx


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Yoohooo Stardust ....  where are you? Please let us know that all is well with you.
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Post by Stardust on 31st May 2017, 09:19

Love and hugs, Feather. Hope you're well again soon. happyheart



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Look after yourself Feather and come back soon.  x
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Post by Stardust on 11th September 2017, 16:09

Hope your eyes heal quickly and that you'll be back soon, Feather...
and we're still waiting for a picture of your pretty car with all the extras added.

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Post by Stardust on 1st February 2018, 10:37

@Feather wrote:This poem reveals my bitter thoughts and probably explains to a certain extent my absence from this forum.

FAITH  DESTROYED.
 
“I HAVE AN ANCHOR”. DO I HELL!!
ALL MY WISHES  ARE STILL IN THE WELL
AT SEVENTY EIGHT, LIFE IS WELL NIGH OVER
SO WHAT IS THE POINT OF A FOUR-LEAFED CLOVER,
HORSE SHOE, WHITE HEATHER OR RABBIT’S FOOT?
WHEN  IMAGINARY GODS DON’T GIVE A HOOT.
THEY DON’T  SEND RELIEF WHEN  I’M FEELING DOWN,
DON’T  WIPE AWAY MY PERPETUAL FROWN,
THERE IS NO MAGIC BEYOND THAT CLOUD
 IT BRINGS ONLY LIGHTNING AND THUNDER LOUD.
IT ISN’T A COVERLET  FOR BLISS TO COME
NOR  A HAZY PATHWAY  TO A HOME
WHERE LOVED ONES WAIT  EXPECTANTLY
FOR MORTALS JUST LIKE YOU AND ME.
NO---SUCH IS JUST THE STUFF OF DREAMS
THAT MELT AWAY IN BITTER STREAMS
OF TEARS IN THE DARKNESS OF THE NIGHT
THERE IS NO JOY, NO ABIDING LIGHT
ONLY DELUSION,  MENTAL STRIFE
IN THE FANTASY OF ETERNAL  LIFE.
28TH JANUARY, 2018.

Hello, Feather,

I've been thinking of you often since I read that poem and trying to project some love, light and positivity to you over all those miles and wild sea.

Seems to me that whatever meds you're taking for depression are just not working.

I so wish I could help in some way.

Your poem indicates that you have given up hope of life continuing in another form once we have departed this Earth, and your loss of belief that we will meet loved ones again. I can't give you answers because until we've gone ourselves we cannot know.

Is it your depression speaking, or are you depressed because of all these negative thoughts you're having?

We're all destined to leave this world one day, so why dwell on what is inevitable, why not rather try to make the most of life and enjoy each and every day to the full?

Obstacles are there to be overcome, and most of them can be if we stay strong. Those that cannot be changed must be endured but at least we can try to keep positive and smile at the world. Even a forced smile can make you feel more cheerful.

I'm sorry that apart from an attempt at cheerful words and sending you a big hug, there's not more I can do for you; it makes me sad to think of you sitting in such a dark place and feeling so alone.

You're in my thoughts, dear Feather, as I'm sure in those of everyone else here, all of us sending positive waves and wishing for you to feel better.

Throw out the despair that's submerging you; life is what it is and what we make of it and, even though we're all afraid deep-down of that final leap and what it may bring (that great unknown) we must let our logical minds persuade us that this short life on Earth cannot be all there is, that there must be so much still to look forward to once our time here is up.

Come on, lass, we're all in this together, bound on the same road, and whatever lies beyond can only be something greater and far surpassing what our imaginations can possibly conjure up.

The fact that we live on this beautiful planet in the midst of a dark cosmos where so many other planets are empty is in itself a miracle. If you can believe in this one, then why can you not believe in something even more amazing and resplendent afterwards?

Keep your faith that there's so much more to look forward to.

Even if there were not (though I do believe that there has to be a continuation) then oblivion is a place where you'll know nothing about it anyway, so no suffering over it.

Just because we have no personal direct understanding means nothing.
Go back far enough in history and people could not conceive of automobiles, aeroplanes, and more recently telephones (then smart phones), computers..., not to mention space travel. Some things in daily use are a complete mystery to me and yet everybody considers them normal, even if most could not explain how they work.

We will make steady progress with understanding psychic, occult, and "supernatural" phenomena in the future too, it's just that at the present time we don't know much, but that doesn't mean that such things (including life going on after death) do not exist.

I'll stop here, in the hope that I've convinced you to hold on to hope and keep smiling. Be happy, please, dear Feather, and treasure all the gifts that each day brings.

Warmest wishes and a great big hug.

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Post by Feather on 22nd March 2018, 14:02

My apologies for not responding sooner to your kind and thoughtful response, Stardust.You are a treasured friend to me.I wish you were nearer.

I think the answer to your question re the cause of my state of mind is twofold. No doubt depression plays a part but it is not the primary cause.The fundamental problem is that even after many years of research,I have still not found answers to my desperate questions. I ask myself why that should be and my reluctantly accepted answer is that there is nothing more to discover re spirituality. Spirits are not part of any reality.I find no comfort from the claims of believers or even from people who relate with great confidence that they have communicated with them---or know someone who says he/she has done. I need my own experience and even that may not be enough. I have many questions which remain unanswered and which enthusiasts cannot answer either.

What I am experiencing is like a constant bereavement because my reality means that there is no purpose in life and---worse--- a final parting has occurred or is to come. How can anyone be happy if this is so? My final question is if some people have confirmation of spiritual truth, then why don't I?
No-one has tried harder or for longer than me.My conclusion, therefore, is that physical death is  indeed the end of life.This is an unbearable concept for many reasons but one that forces itself on my unwilling heart.



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Post by Stardust on 23rd March 2018, 08:59

@Feather wrote:...The fundamental problem is that even after many years of research,I have still not found answers to my desperate questions. I ask myself why that should be and my reluctantly accepted answer is that there is nothing more to discover re spirituality. Spirits are not part of any reality.
Feather, we seekers all know that there are ever more questions for very rare answers.
In the eternal scheme of things I would think that each step, of which life on this Earth is but one, has its limits for each of us.
Like children starting school who can only go up to the next class once they've assimilated the lessons of the previous one.
As for the word "Spirits", maybe that's not the best word to describe what we become in the "Afterlife" (assuming that there is one).

@Feather wrote:...I find no comfort from the claims of believers or even from people who relate with great confidence that they have communicated with them---or know someone who says he/she has done. I need my own experience and even that may not be enough. I have many questions which remain unanswered and which enthusiasts cannot answer either.
Also, as in all things our parents try to teach us, we often do not profit by their experiences and doubt what they tell us because we have to live through our own personal experiences.
Why some folk have "paranormal" experiences and others not, I don't know, perhaps some part of their brain that's activated but is dormant in the majority of people.

@Feather wrote:...What I am experiencing is like a constant bereavement because my reality means that there is no purpose in life and---worse--- a final parting has occurred or is to come. How can anyone be happy if this is so? My final question is if some people have confirmation of spiritual truth, then why don't I?
No-one has tried harder or for longer than me. My conclusion, therefore, is that physical death is  indeed the end of life.This is an unbearable concept for many reasons but one that forces itself on my unwilling heart.
We all long for contact or "signs" from loved ones who have gone. Speaking for myself, there have been what could be interpreted as "signs", usually soon after the person has passed, but nothing 100% conclusive when thought over at a later date (oh ye of little faith...). When we perceive nothing, of course we remain sad and bereft because our beloved are no longer with us.
It's natural to fear death and potential "oblivion", but how to explain our existence if it really is all there is? Logic tends toward something more even though we may have no tangible proof of it.
We can be terrified of losing those we love or of dying ourselves, but I think when the time comes "passing" is a serene and peaceful experience where, at the ultimate moment, we look forward to leaving worries and sickness behind. I really believe that those who speak always of love and light are correct and that we leave the violence and darkness of the world for something calm and beautiful.

Coming back to there being no purpose to life if nothing lies beyond, we touch many other lives during the course of our own, and it's up to us to try to bring something positive to all those with whom we interact. We must attempt to make this world a better place now and for future generations and combat all the negativity that is presently widespread. If we do that, our life will be a blessing for others and surely that's reason enough to make the most of our years here and try to uplift our own hearts through our good works or kind words.
You've done plenty of that, Feather, so you've enriched many lives, including mine (a warm thank you for that). I can only hope that my own words here will bring you some comfort.

Have a big hug, dear Feather, and one for Chica too.

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Post by Feather on 5th May 2018, 12:21

Hello, everyone. I have been lazy and apathetic for a long time. I still am really but my physical health has recently taken a SLIGHT turn or two for the worse: 1.My diverticulitis has flared up again and I have had a lot of abdominal pain for about a month. No relief has been possible in the toilet department.I've been eating more fruit and the doctor gave me sachets called Fibogel so, in 3 or 4 weeks,I can look forward to some BIG results!!! sidestep

At the moment I have the worst cold/'flu I have ever had.I can't get a night's sleep for the tickly cough and my chest is full of unmentionable phlegm.My son, Leigh, got stuff from the chemist's and it is helping but I am still getting little sleep. Thank goodness I do not have a raised temperature but other folk tell me this one lasts for about a month!! Shocked 

I have stopped all medication for my anxiety/depression as it was no longer helping me and the side effects were numerous and awful. Iwas having nightmares every night, itchy rashes, sweats, weight gain, memory problems and some confusion. confused As a result, of course, my sadness and tendency to burst into tears for no apparent reason have increased. I'm hoping it will all settle down as the year progresses.This is the first time I've felt able to tell you all of this as I haven't had the energy to do so over the winter. Rolling Eyes 

Just this week, another source of sadness has appeared in my life. sigh 
You probably know that talking about mental problems is a good way of relieving them but only if the listener(s) is/are empathetic and understanding. Well, I confided in a friend of over 50 years about my depression etc and it was apparent very early in the conversation that she hadn't a clue what I was facing.Her remarks were dismissive and quite hurtful. BTW---she was one of my bridesmaids in 1962!! Our conversation took place on the phone and some of her remarks brought tears to my eyes. In short--I had to put the phone down to hide from her how badly I felt. I emailed her later to explain myself but she has not even replied.I must have hurt her feelings but I did not mean to. I give up. giveup



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Post by Whiskers on 5th May 2018, 14:30

@Feather wrote:Hello, everyone. I have been lazy and apathetic for a long time. I still am really but my physical health has recently taken a SLIGHT turn or two for the worse: 1.My diverticulitis has flared up again and I have had a lot of abdominal pain for about a month. No relief has been possible in the toilet department.I've been eating more fruit and the doctor gave me sachets called Fibogel so, in 3 or 4 weeks,I can look forward to some BIG results!!! sidestep

At the moment I have the worst cold/'flu I have ever had.I can't get a night's sleep for the tickly cough and my chest is full of unmentionable phlegm.My son, Leigh, got stuff from the chemist's and it is helping but I am still getting little sleep. Thank goodness I do not have a raised temperature but other folk tell me this one lasts for about a month!! Shocked 

I have stopped all medication for my anxiety/depression as it was no longer helping me and the side effects were numerous and awful. Iwas having nightmares every night, itchy rashes, sweats, weight gain, memory problems and some confusion. confused As a result, of course, my sadness and tendency to burst into tears for no apparent reason have increased. I'm hoping it will all settle down as the year progresses.This is the first time I've felt able to tell you all of this as I haven't had the energy to do so over the winter. Rolling Eyes 

Just this week, another source of sadness has appeared in my life. sigh 
You probably know that talking about mental problems is a good way of relieving them but only if the listener(s) is/are empathetic and understanding. Well, I confided in a friend of over 50 years about my depression etc and it was apparent very early in the conversation that she hadn't a clue what I was facing.Her remarks were dismissive and quite hurtful. BTW---she was one of my bridesmaids in 1962!! Our conversation took place on the phone and some of her remarks brought tears to my eyes. In short--I had to put the phone down to hide from her how badly I felt. I emailed her later to explain myself but she has not even replied.I must have hurt her feelings but I did not mean to. I give up. giveup

Sorry you are feeling poorly Feather. My heart goes out to you in your pain both physical and mental. catlick

@Feather wrote:I have stopped all medication for my anxiety/depression as it was no longer helping me and the side effects were numerous and awful. Iwas having nightmares every night, itchy rashes, sweats, weight gain, memory problems and some confusion. confused As a result, of course, my sadness and tendency to burst into tears for no apparent reason have increased.

Its most likely a good idea to phase off the anxiety medication, for long-term use of such meds can actually end up causing the very problems they are initially meant to address! They can be very beneficial over a specific period of time but you get to the stage where they are only harming instead of healing.
You may have to go through an adjustment phase for a while at the beginning, where everything seems hugely exaggerated, but if you can manage to get through that time and know that it will gradually decrease, it will be worth it in the end. Look after yourself Feather. Try to keep a positive outlook. Now that the weather is beginning to change for the better it might make things a bit easier. And writing down your woes really does help to lessen them somewhat. hug hug
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Post by Feather on 5th May 2018, 17:16

Thank you for your kindness, Whiskers.



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Post by Kitkat on 5th May 2018, 23:07

I second all that Whiskers has said.

Feather, I have sent you a PM.  xx
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Post by Stardust on 10th June 2018, 20:46

I hope you've feeling at least physically better now, Feather. It breaks my heart that you can't shake off that awful depression that's bugged you for so long. Have a great big hug from afar and remember you're in my thoughts. 

Lots of love and light winging your way. happyhearthug



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