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Post by Stardust on 31st January 2016, 19:06

@Feather wrote:

The Strynd--an old lane in Kirkwall. I've walked up and down it many times on my way to and from school when I was a child.

I love this photo, Feather, and I'd love to take a walk down that lane into the golden sunshine.

Alannah is a beautiful name.
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Post by Kitkat on 31st January 2016, 22:37

@Stardust wrote:Alannah is a beautiful name.

Literally.   The translation of the word alannah in the Irish language means Beautiful. Darling child.
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Post by Feather on 31st January 2016, 22:46

I must  tell her mother that. She probably doesn't know. Thanks, kk. She has 2 older brothers--Michael and Daniel. The 3 of them are the children of my brother's youngest son, Paul.  Photos still to come.x.



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Michael--Alannah's oldest brother.



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Daniel-- younger brother of Michael, older brother of Alannah.



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My brother's youngest son, Paul, with his wife, Helga and their children--Michael, Daniel and Alannah--taken when the children were little.



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You must be very proud of your lovely family Feather.  flower
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Post by Feather on 4th February 2016, 22:21

Yes, I'm proud of my two sons-not because of their looks but because of their loving nature and general outlook on life. They have many friends and treat everyone with respect. I just wish they had married and had kids for me to love. All the other photos are of my brother's family. I'm not really close to any of them --- well, not in that inner circle if you know what I mean.



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Post by Feather on 4th February 2016, 22:33



Rainbow over St Mary's, 3 miles south of my home.



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Post by Feather on 9th February 2016, 09:58

I should be feeling better than I am. I'm into my 4th week of new antidepressants but this morning I've cried and been bad tempered.
Add to that--my BP refuses to go down in spite of the double strength tablets I was given a month ago. I've been given a home monitor so that I can take my pressure morning and night. An ok reading for my age would be 140/90. This morning mine was 168/98 and ten minutes later--
170/82. I have to take 2 readings, ten minutes apart.Seemingly it's the bottom reading that's the more important one. The whole thing should be lower in the morning and will likely rise by evening.

Nothing is working and this causes me more distress so it's one of those vicious circles. In short, I'm in a bad way--just want to sleep so that I can forget about everything. Nobody knows what it's like.



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Post by Kitkat on 9th February 2016, 13:16

Believe me, Feather, you certainly are not alone in this situation. xx (I personally know two people who express the exact same sentiments as you - one male, one female, different ages).

As far as the DIY blood pressure measuring goes, here are a few tips to make sure you're getting accurate readings.  Following these guidelines can actually make all the difference to the final count:-

Tips for accurate use

No matter what type of home blood pressure monitor you choose, proper use requires training and practice. Take the device to your doctor or nurse to make sure the one you've chosen is the best fit for you, and learn how to use the monitor correctly.

To help ensure accurate blood pressure monitoring at home:

   Check your device's accuracy. Before using a monitor for the first time, have your doctor check its accuracy against the office model. Also have your doctor watch you use the device to see if you're doing it properly. If you drop the device or damage it, have it checked before using it again.

   Measure your blood pressure twice daily. The first measurement should be in the morning before eating or taking any medications, and the second in the evening. Each time you measure, take two or three readings to make sure your results are accurate. Your doctor might recommend taking your blood pressure at the same times each day.

   Don't measure your blood pressure right after you wake up. You can prepare for the day, but don't eat breakfast or take medications before measuring your blood pressure. If you exercise after waking, take your blood pressure before exercising.

   Avoid food, caffeine, tobacco and alcohol for 30 minutes before taking a measurement. Also, go to the toilet first. A full bladder can increase blood pressure slightly.

   Sit quietly before and during monitoring. When you're ready to take your blood pressure, sit for five minutes in a comfortable position with your legs and ankles uncrossed and your back supported against a chair. Try to be calm and not think about stressful things. Don't talk while taking your blood pressure.

   Make sure your arm is positioned properly. Always use the same arm when taking your blood pressure. Rest your arm, raised to the level of your heart, on a table, desk or chair arm. You might need to place a pillow or cushion under your arm to elevate it high enough.

   Place the cuff on bare skin, not over clothing. Rolling up a sleeve until it tightens around your arm can result in an inaccurate reading, so you may need to slip your arm out of the sleeve.

   Take a repeat reading. Wait for one to three minutes after the first reading, and then take another to check accuracy. If your monitor doesn't automatically log blood pressure readings or heart rates, write them down.

Blood pressure varies throughout the day, and readings are often a little higher in the morning. Also, your blood pressure might be slightly lower at home than in a medical office, typically by about five points.
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Post by Feather on 9th February 2016, 13:44

Those tips are very useful, kk. I know about most of them but not the one about a tight sleeve. I had one of them on this morning!! I had also had a cigie first thing in the morning. I know I should have waited but I always have one before I get up. Naughty. Interesting to see that BP is often higher in the mornings. I thought the opposite was true although my brother says his is like that. Thank you so much for your post.xxx.



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Post by Whiskers on 10th February 2016, 11:35

Hope you are feeling bit better today Feather.  happyheart
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Post by Feather on 10th February 2016, 13:28

Thank you for that, Whiskers, but have had a bad morning again. I'm still in my dressing gown. Don't think these tablets are doing me any good.
Will have a shower now and see if I can take the dog out.



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Post by Whiskers on 12th February 2016, 18:21

@Feather wrote:Thank you for that, Whiskers, but have had a bad morning again. I'm still in my dressing gown. Don't think these tablets are doing me any good.
Will have a shower now and see if I can take the dog out.

Sorry to hear that Feather.  Sometimes tablets take a while to get into your system and do what they are supposed to do.  Like with most things its that period of adjustment thats the hardest.  Its maybe a bit too soon to judge their full effect.  Thinking of you.  happyheart
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Post by Feather on 12th February 2016, 22:00

You're very kind,Whiskers. Last time I started new antidepressants,they took about 6 weeks to work. I'm at week 4 now so there's still time for improvement. I've just taken a BP reading and it's still sky high. That doesn't help my anxiety. I'll go back to the doctor next week. He's on holiday this week. Thanks for your concern--much appreciated.



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Post by Kitkat on 18th February 2016, 09:52

How's it going, Feather?  Are you finding things any easier these days?

Whiskers is right about new tablets taking a while to take their full effect.  Also, initial side effects of some medications in the meantime might make it feel as though they're not doing their job; but if you persevere and wait till the side effects cease, or at least ease (which they will do after a certain time) then you can start to feel the benefit.
And of course what's beneficial for one person may not necessarily be so for another. 
You're still in the trial period with this medication.  Your GP will be monitoring all of this - one reason why you've been asked to check BP every day.  You shouldn't really worry yourself too much about fluctuations in your BP.  Don't put too much importance on the ups and downs of those readings - that'll be for your doc to work on.  Have you had a chance to check back with your doc yet?  4 weeks seems like a good period of time in which to do so.

And don't stop 'reporting' in here each day. wave   We like to keep an eye on how you're doing :thumb: and miss you when you've not been around for a while.  judge
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Post by Feather on 18th February 2016, 13:41

Hi, everyone. I have 3 tales to tell--2 of them hilarious


No i. Re--dentistry.
I had a filling done a couple of months ago. During the procedure, the dentist nipped my lip on the side that wasn't deadened. In the weeks that followed, it became a little, hard, lumpy sore which refused to go away. Now--I know that if it stays put for more than 3 weeks, you have to see a doctor in case it has turned cancerous. I returned to the dentist's and he reassured me it was nothing to worry about but referred me to the hospital dentist to have it removed. Three days before my appointment, the bloody thing disappeared!!
I cancelled the appointment.

No2. Re--Blood Pressure. As you know, I was getting very high readings so I took the monitor to my brother's last Saturday. His wife, Hazel, had been a theatre nurse before retirement so I thought she would know what was what.
I put on the armband only to have her say it was on wrongly. She righted it and took a reading---which was like that of a teenager. Every reading since has been the same! Silly, silly me.

No 3. Re eyes. I had a check up with the eye consultant yesterday. My pressure is still a little high. I also have 2 cataracts in the early stages of development---one in each eye. Normally they are allowed to grow before an operation is done but because of my pressure problem, I am to have them removed sooner. This is because, when fully developed, they raise eye pressure which I can't afford to let happen. I also was given eye drops for the first time to use at night. My friend , Jean, has glaucoma in one eye and she has had drops for a while now. I have less space in my eyes for a surgeon to work safely so I may have to go to Inverness for the ops--they do only one at a time.My brother had both eyes done a few years ago. He says he had never seen so well before.
Sorry for the long ramble BUT YOU DID ASK!! xxx.



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Post by Kitkat on 18th February 2016, 19:22

Well, that's great news about the BP.  I had a feeling that it may have been the case that you were doing it wrongly.  How I know so much about it? ... well, I got one of those home BP testers in Boots for my cousin when he was poorly (before he went into hospital).  Read all the instructions carefully, but not really much point because between us we couldn't even manage to get the thing on properly!  Had planned to bring it to his GP on next visit, so that he could show us what we were doing wrong - but meantime he ended up in hospital.  (He's much recovered now, but on a long-term, drawn-out treatment where he has to go as an outpatient at regular intervals for 'Infusion' sessions with this new 'wonder drug'.)
The BP thingy is still in its box, unused!  shrug
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Post by Feather on 21st March 2016, 10:33

My dearest mother who passed away this day, 21st March, 1972. My world perceptibly darkened that day and remains so now.




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Post by Whiskers on 21st March 2016, 15:02

I think everyone's life changes dramatically when you lose a parent.  Our whole perspective on life changes and we have to start dealing with our lives as a grown up whatever age we are.  Remembering the happy times when they were alive helps to keep their memories alive and keeps part of them with us. So much easier to deal with that loss and lighten up the darkness when you learn that they are not lost for ever and we have the hope and expectation that one day we will be reunited with all our deceased loved ones. That thought gives me great comfort. Its the thought of never seeing them again that causes the darkness.  For me this was just a hope at first but hearing so many accounts from so many different sources in recent years has changed that hope for me into something more happy and positive.  So many stories from all around the globe from people with different beliefs and lifestyles telling of the same kinds of experiences for hundreds of years can not be ignored or just put down to coincidence.

Do you talk to your mother Feather? not out loud but just in your head. If you did you might even notice some kind of little signs acknowledging that she heard you, or if you asked her a question you might find the answer suddenly comes to you from some strange source, specialy if its an anniversary or birthday they do seem to be around us at those times.  These kind of things when they happen do bring a bit of light into those dark days and help to lighten our moods.  happyheart
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Post by Feather on 21st March 2016, 16:43

I have been searching for over 40 years for such signs and assurances but all in vain. I so wish I could say otherwise but in all honesty I can't. This is one of the main reasons for my anxiety depression.If I knew for sure that we would all meet again I would be a happy bunny but all I know is death and permanent separation from everything and everyone--annihilation and it terrifies and saddens me.I'm not one who can jump to conclusions re signs when there is no proof of their meaning.Believe me I've tried.I've consulted many mediums: some have been so vague as to be laughable if they weren't so fraudulent; some have seemed to hit the nail on the head but their information could easily have been gleaned from public records and I suspect that's where it originated.

One thing I will not do is live in a fools' paradise. Why is it so difficult to contact our loved ones? We're told that they are near us and know what is happening in our lives. Really? We are also told that they are happy. How can that be the case if they know the sadness we endure? If they are aware of us, why should it be so hard for them to let us know their spirit is alive? What is the purpose of the obstacles? I could go on and on but I think I've said enough for you to understand my position. I wish it were otherwise and, if anything changes, I will be the first to let you know.x.



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Post by Whiskers on 21st March 2016, 19:41

Hi Feather.   I hope you didnt take my post the wrong way and think I was trying to convince you of something that you dont want to hear, that certainly was not my intention.  I am already aware of your position about these things.  I was speaking purely from my own views learned from my own experience of how I have grown to come to terms with my own losses and wouldnt dream of preaching to you or anyone else, even if I was in a position to. 

I do not feel I am living in a fools paradise for thinking the way I do, nor do I think that about all the other people I hear about who talk about their experiences and why they believe or dont believe this that or the other.  We are all individuals in our own right.  We are all different and have different ways of dealing with our own troubles.  What is a good solution for one wont always be the same for everyone else.  I like hearing about other peoples experiences and views and do not judge them because they are different from mine.
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Re: Feather by the sea.

Post by Feather on 21st March 2016, 21:33

I'm sorry if my post came across in an unfriendly way. I didn't mean it to. Please put it down to my state of mind. I didn't think you were trying to convince me of anything.It's just that I suppose I wonder why others get these signs etc but I don't. It's not as if I don't need them. I really do.I'm glad for people who have found peace in this way. I was not suggesting that you lived in that proverbial paradise but rather that, if I were to believe, without my kind of proof, I would be! The last thing I'd want to do is tamper with the beliefs of other folk.



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Re: Feather by the sea.

Post by Whiskers on 23rd March 2016, 21:28

No need for apology Feather.  You didnt come across as unfriendly! I realize it was a sad day for you and I do sympathize with how you must have been feeling.  It sometimes helps to share those feelings, we all go through them.  Its good to have somewhere like this to come and vent your feelings.  I hope you feeling better today.  happyheart
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Re: Feather by the sea.

Post by Feather on 6th April 2016, 14:22

I will try again but as of now I can't seem to post the avatar I want on here.

Anyway, I'min a right state for another reason.

KK knows my close friend , Jean. They met in London when we were down a few years ago. Jean and I were very close friends but she left Orkney last May to live in Fife.We have kept in touch since then and she assured me I would be invited to stay with her for a holiday. It's almost a year now but the invitation has not come. I've been waiting patiently cos I'm not pushy and would never go unless I was asked.
Jean has another pal who arrived in Orkney many years after Jean and I became friends. She arrived at Jean's unasked when Jean had no furniture in the house. OK, that was up to the two of them but Jean's birthday was on Monday of this week. I put a greeting on Facebook for her, sent her a nice card in the post and an E-card on line. Next I know-- Jean put an elaborate thank you  to this person on Facebook, thanking her for the lovely time they had spent together on her birthday.I should also explain that Jean is away from home a lot at dog shows and competitions so she said she would let me know when she was home-----which she has not yet done. This other woman just arrives and that is ok. I feel rejected and, being sensitive (or mentally unstable?) I got very upset and cried with hurt over it. I admit I was angry as well.In the heat of the moment, I sent Jean a message on Facebook telling her how I felt.We have always been able to do this. That's one of the reasons why the friendship was so special to me.
She replied saying she was appalled by my reaction and made no attempt whatsoever to smooth things over. In fact, she unfriended me so now I have no contact with her on Facebook. I have this morning made a final attempt to get things back on a smooth footing but have still had no reply. Sorry to bother you with this personal dilemma but I have nowhere else to turn. 

I've been in tears all morning--can't seem to snap out of it. I was really looking forward to going down to see Jean as I don't go many places any more but I'm not going to crawl. It has helped me to write it all down but it just shows that life can slap you in the face from the most unexpected direction no matter what your age is.



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